The passing of a loved one.

I recently had a friend experience a freak accident, suffer sever head trauma, and after a week of being in a coma passed away.

I was fortunate enough to be invited in by the family to anoint her while she was in hospital during her week of transition.
It was an incredibly humbling and heart wrenching experience.

I realised the power of essential oils in two ways that week, ways I hadn’t even considered before.

1. They gave us an uplifting experience to help with grief. 
The aromas helped to elevate our heavy hearts and allow us to breathe. Emotions can be so overwhelming that they really can feel like they are suffocating us. It didn’t really matter what oils were used, they all elevated our spirits, but the citrus oils are the most light hearted of them. The refreshing scent of lemon, bergamot, tangerine, lime, grapefruit and orange left an impact on not only our group, but on the staff at the hospital as well.

2. Their gift came to the ones who felt helpless.
Watching someone fight for their life with machines keeping them here on this plane, left me feeling overwhelmed with grief and completely helpless. The fact that I was able to anoint her body and teach the family and friends to do the same gave us a sense of being able to contribute to helping her.
It meant we didn’t feel completely helpless. And feeling helplessness sucks, it just makes everything else feel so much harder.
If she was to live or die wasn’t up to us, but being able to offer hope and to feel like, if she was to survive then we were able to offer her something to support that, was really important.

Yes I would love to believe that the oils would have magically cured her. But there are so many more factors involved in serious situations like this that the gift they gave to the ones left behind was more important than anything I could have ever imagined.

Even after all this time (13 years) I am still surprised and humbled by the power of essential oils.
If you have a loved one moving through transition of life to death, take your oils, anoint them, let the oils ease the grief and bring peace to them. Allow yourself to be grateful for the gift of death, as much as we are grateful for the gift of life.

After their passing to help with grief I use oils like frankincense, cedarwood, bergamot, lavender, lemon, lime, basil, cypress, balsam fir, copaiba and idaho blue spruce.
Blends: peace and calming, trauma life, gathering, grounding, harmony, release, stress away and joy .

From that list I just pick what I’m drawn to that day.

  • I anoint myself over my heart, behind my ears, wrists and temples.
  • Put a drop in my hands and then cup it over my face and take 3 deep inhalations. 
  • Diffuse 8-10 drops of my preferred oils (pick a combo that I’m drawn to)

And I remember to breathe.
I take at leat 3 deep inhalations (this is great with an oil under my nose, or cup my hands over face with my chose oil on it) and  on the exhale I allow the energy of the grief to leave my body.
And I repeat several times per day until I feel able to continue and not overwhelmed.

Keeping you well oiled.

Catherine B Garro